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Post by Babu Baboon on Aug 31, 2019 15:31:49 GMT -6
Remember our plans we once had that if we were single, we were gonna go to Hedonism II or some other tropical place and act like the old creepers from "Hardbodies"?
Well, I may be free for it soon.
My wife and I are now separated. My mom had always handled the checkbook when I was a kid. Since Tammy had accounting courses and worked as an office manager, I let her do the same. Big mistake.
I started to realize she had been mishandling our money, but I had no idea until going through things after she was gone. Over the years, she has opened countless credit card and loans in both our names and hasn't bothered to pay them, ruining both our credit. Even more unforgivable, she has started in on our daughter. As soon as she turns 18, I'm freezing her credit.
Worse still, I've discovered our mortgage is way way way behind. As in, she hasn't made a payment in four years. Every time they would threaten foreclosure, she would declare bankruptcy. So now, I find myself in the position of trying to save the home my kid grew up in. I bought this house from my grandmother, so I have tons of childhood memories there, as well. If I lose my house, I'll never be able to forgive my wife for this.
So, anyhoo, I'm starving myself and working out like a maniac preparing myself for a possible future as a middle aged divorced guy. Hopefully, I won't be a middle aged homeless guy, too. I wish I'd bailed when I thought things were bad two decades ago.
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Post by Doc Quantum on Aug 31, 2019 21:01:01 GMT -6
Damn. That sucks. Sorry to hear that, man.
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Post by Babu Baboon on Sept 5, 2019 14:18:49 GMT -6
Thanks, Doc. it looks like we'l be able to save the house, but it'll be costly. She actually borrowed against the house without telling me what's going on.
What's scaring me now is the thought of being single again at my age.
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Post by mh on Sept 9, 2019 0:38:08 GMT -6
sh-t baboon, i'm so sorry. omg. whew, damn. this is awful. g-d, i hope you are holding up okay personally. it's got to be bad. i hope hishighness and some friends are available to help u thru this. this must be scary as hell, but yer a smart guy, you'll be okay.
my oldest friend went thru something kind of similar. after they were divorced his ex cheryl opened up a credit card in his name because she was addicted to the home shopping network.  seriously. she had a masters degree in social work -- and was running up thousands of dollars in fake diamond chokers and cocktail rings because she said it made her feel good about herself. but jezus, again baboon, i'm so sorry. this sucks. if it comes down to it, me & doc and possibly lothar will road trip with you to 'cali' just like the guys on hard-bodies! everybody, start working on yer guts!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 10, 2019 4:05:08 GMT -6
Oh man, so sorry to hear, Babu. I hope everything works out for the best for you. Do you at least know what happened to the money? Is there anything recoverable?
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Post by Babu Baboon on Sept 10, 2019 14:51:20 GMT -6
sh-t baboon, i'm so sorry. omg. whew, damn. this is awful. g-d, i hope you are holding up okay personally. it's got to be bad. i hope hishighness and some friends are available to help u thru this. this must be scary as hell, but yer a smart guy, you'll be okay.
my oldest friend went thru something kind of similar. after they were divorced his ex cheryl opened up a credit card in his name because she was addicted to the home shopping network. seriously. she had a masters degree in social work -- and was running up thousands of dollars in fake diamond chokers and cocktail rings because she said it made her feel good about herself. but jezus, again baboon, i'm so sorry. this sucks. if it comes down to it, me & doc and possibly lothar will road trip with you to 'cali' just like the guys on hard-bodies! everybody, start working on yer guts!
That's basically Mrs. Baboon's problem. ... a shopping addiction to cope with whatever emotional problems she has. This crap has been going on for years, but I didn't know the extent of it until she was out the door. I like yer roadtrip idea, bu we might need to make it the redneck Riviera of Gulf Shores. I'm not sure I can afford Cali right now. *choke* |
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Post by Babu Baboon on Sept 10, 2019 14:52:53 GMT -6
Oh man, so sorry to hear, Babu. I hope everything works out for the best for you. Do you at least know what happened to the money? Is there anything recoverable? That's the painful part. She had lond since reached he point whre money was just being eaten up by late fees, penalties, and legal fees. She might as well have been emptying her purse into the terlet! |
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Post by mh on Sept 11, 2019 0:04:20 GMT -6
Oh man, so sorry to hear, Babu. I hope everything works out for the best for you. Do you at least know what happened to the money? Is there anything recoverable? That's the painful part. She had lond since reached he point whre money was just being eaten up by late fees, penalties, and legal fees. She might as well have been emptying her purse into the terlet!
i'm just gonna say it, women SUCK at handling money!!! a b-tch can spend $300 at walmart like i'd buy a box of skittles!
before we moved several years back, i starting noticing money was just disappearing from our accounts, and one day, walking my kid to the bus, i asked, "honey, does mommy ever go to the bank, take out a lot of money, go home, and flush it down the bathroom?" she said, "no", just to get the question out of the way so she could jabber about 'gem & the holograms', or whatever little girls liked to talk about back then. once i started digging into it, and i didn't want to, but i did, there were lots of problems. but it wasn't insurmountable, and my father helped us out, and we moved & bought a house out here. i've largely forgiven her & we've moved past it, but there are times i wonder,,, where'd that FUCKING $4500.00 go?!! |
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Post by Babu on Sept 13, 2019 14:51:43 GMT -6
Ha Ha Ha Ha!!! $4500? You lucky son of a bitch!!
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Post by Babu on Sept 13, 2019 15:37:28 GMT -6
You're lucky. My kid went back and told my wife we were all talking smack about her.
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Post by mh on Sept 15, 2019 0:20:51 GMT -6
i'm sorry pal. this has got to hurt. if this is irreconcilable, you've got to do whatever gives you the ability to survive it. it seems like every few years people change, for the better or worse, and at some point i think practically everyone wakes up in bed beside someone they friggin' hate! beginning the new teaching career has got to be a plus for you. so that's good. and remember, your monkey alliance pals are here. like in about 2001 i think, one saturday nite entertainment tonite did a two hour retrospective on st. elmo's fire (1985) -- and something about it made me just snap. i was foamin' at the mouth! you, edm, mushmouth, and desk-boy managed to talk me down. i was this close to asphyxiating myself in a closet like david carradine !! i was ready to open up a vein! we can laugh about it now.
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Post by Babu on Sept 15, 2019 10:17:10 GMT -6
Yeah, of fall the things she's taken from me, it feels like the worst thing she stole from me is my youth since I wasted all those years. When you're young, you have hope and aspirations. Instead, I'm middle aged, broke, disabled, and it feels like my best years are behind me. That's why I'm working out like I'm training for the Olympics since the idea of trying to start over at my age. When I'm on the treadmill, it kind of feels like I'm running for my life.
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Post by mh on Sept 16, 2019 21:50:29 GMT -6
it's good you're doing something positive. where's your weight at? i need on a program bad. we can start "the 'monkey alliance' road to health & happiness," and make millions! our youth might be gone, but as those male hair coloring commercials say, we're old enough to know what we're doing, but still young enough to do it! i need to slim down bad. if we go hedonistic hardbodies style, i don't want to be "rounder"!!
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Post by Babu Baboon on Sept 18, 2019 19:23:22 GMT -6
I had let myself get up there again, but I'm slowly getting the weight back off. It's taking a while. I think there are hibernating bears with faster metabolism s than me.
The weightlifting is pumping up my upper body, but I've still got a gut. I look like a grey haired version of Stan Smith from American Dad.
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seriously. she had a masters degree in social work -- and was running up thousands of dollars in fake diamond chokers and cocktail rings because she said it made her feel good about herself. but jezus, again baboon, i'm so sorry. this sucks. if it comes down to it, me & doc and possibly lothar will road trip with you to 'cali' just like the guys on hard-bodies! everybody, start working on yer guts! 